Thursday, December 28, 2017

The freedom of Transparency



Isn't it amazingly refreshing to admit "I DON'T HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER"!

Why do we feel as if we have to put on this façade to the world that all is peachy king in our lives and we have the bull by the horns? It's ok to not have all the answers.......it's ok to be unsure sometimes.

I honestly believe that we do this because we want to portray to the world.....our friends.....and even family members that nothing can get the best of us, and all the while we are crumbling inside. On the inside, our lives our filled with chaos and we're a tick away from breaking down and succumbing to mayhem in our lives.

Why do we feel we can't be transparent to the ones closest to us? The Merriam Webster dictionary defines Transparent as free from pretense or deceit. Is this how we want to be portrayed by the people we say we care about the most......deceitful and pretentious? I don't believe so. In our pursuit to transparency we really don't have to have it all together, and we don't have to appear that we do. What we should be aiming for is being able to be our authentic selves. In a world where everything and everyone is so made up and fake, it is invigorating to be true to yourself. Admitting that hey.......my kids are acting a plum fool, or I didn't get the promotion on the job because I've been late more then enough times. Or how about my relationship is not what it appears to be on social media.

Who are we trying to impress? Because truth be told we all have a mini tornado in our lives waiting to tear the roof off this mutha, LOL and the ones that appear as if they don't, possibly has so much stress in their lives from pretending that they're causing their own internal tornado.

Trust me, no one will look at you sideways for that, at least not the people in your life that truly care about you; hell they don't even have it all together. None of us do, but what we do have each other and a healthy sense of who we are and even though we don't have it all together and it seems as if the world is falling apart. Knowing that you can be who you really are without having to put on airs to impress others is so liberating. Also once we start to actually live in our truth, then and only then can we start to put the pieces together one by one and live the stress free life that transparency and authenticity affords.

#sonyacookementor